Cold January. „New year, new me” is already in your mind? That’s the power of feverish resolutions – those from the last year that failed and a whole bunch of new ones, because from now everything will be different, right? A few weeks pass and everything is back to normal. Resolutions are pretty much gone, but frustration is here and still growing. Sounds familiar? Relax, it’s November. It means two months left until the end of the year. In my opinion, this is the best moment to start the annual summaries and carefully enter the next stage, which is the arrival of the new year. How to get out of the vicious circle of resolutions and how to make them become our everyday life?

Don’t set expectations too high

This is the first and definitely the most important of the rules. For some reason, we all have an unpleasant experience related to failure to keep New Year’s promises. Despite this, we should not take ourselves too harshly. On the contrary, we should give ourselves another chance (and even 10 more chances) and establish thoughtful and achievable assumptions. The fewer they are, the better. If you really do at least one small thing for yourself, you will feel better than if you wrote 10 new and ambitious but unrealistic resolutions on your list.

Think carefully about your decisions

Approach your resolutions as a kind of strategy. What do you care most about? What comes to you most difficult? What provisions persist repeatedly at the beginning of the new year, and you still do not implement them? An action plan will help you. The more specific the goal, the more attainable it becomes. Start by setting yourself a maximum of three resolutions and stick to them consistently. After a month, evaluate how you are doing and add more goals or stay on what you have achieved. This is already a great success!

Consider from a broader perspective

To change habits permanently, you need a holistic approach to life and yourself. You must consider every aspect. If you don’t think about which areas really require a change of approach, no short-term revolution will bring the desired results. Take care of yourself holistically and change your lifestyle instead of changing the list of resolutions every year.

Give yourself time (lots of time)

Most of the things we decide to require a sufficient amount of time. The effects of our actions may be visible only after a few weeks or even months. Therefore, we need self-understanding and patience so badly. According to psychologist Ewa Woydyłło, the strength of New Year’s resolutions is not in the immediate effect, but in changing the way of thinking and motivation to make a fruitful effort. As she says, most of the changes in our lives occur as a result of our work, not as a result of an emergency.

Best practices for the end of the year

There are several important factors that can help us transition from old to new. In my opinion, these are the most important of them:


The end of the year is conducive to reflection. Slow down, listen to yourself and calmly think about what you really want. The present time is a friend of such thoughts. This will allow you to plan your changes and lead you to the answer to why you really need them.


Don’t deal with the past. Let go of everything that weighs you down and blocks you. Let yourself begin a new stage by cleansing and forgetting everything that makes you sad.


Be grateful for everything this year has brought you. You may not have fulfilled all the resolutions of January, but certainly, the past months have given you a lot of good. Gratitude makes us look at life from a different perspective. It is worth cultivating her throughout the year.


A positive attitude has tremendous power. Do not focus on what you failed this year. Go beyond that, look ahead and enjoy what is coming.

A new beginning

Every change starts with you – whether it coincides with calendar events or not. Even if it fails, you can always try again. The end is always the beginning of something new. The same applies to the end of the year.