What would be the advice you would give your younger self?
We can’t turn back time. That’s good, although there are times when we would like it to be different. Many benefits come to us with age. We become smarter and more aware. If only we could meet „younger selves” there would certainly be many valuable advices that we would like to give them. So what would you say to yourself? The same as what I would say?
Don’t worry about what others say and think
There is nothing new under the sun. People always have and will have something to say about us. Whether you do something or not – it won’t be right. So regardless of what your decisions will be, they will always be judged. The most important is your reaction. Always remain calm. Trust your choices and take care of your satisfaction.
Find out what you don’t want in your life
You might think: “How come? Isn’t what I want more important?” Well, no. Why is that? Usually, we come to what we want in life for years. We don’t know ourselves and we don’t try to get to know. However, with age, some self-awareness comes to us. It’s worth observing ourselves and our reactions through events. Try to find out what you don’t like. Learn to say „no” and enjoy the freedom that this magic word will give you.
Trust your intuition
As Ingrid Bergman used to say:
You must train your intuition – you must trust the small voice inside you which tells you exactly what to say, what to decide.
Always think for yourself and follow the voice that guides you. Don’t believe only what you were taught. The modern world is conducive to the loss of our internal power, which is intuition. Our task is to learn to recover it. The best way is to do that through silence, meditation, a moment of reflection on the world around us and our beliefs.
Invest in yourself
Do what you can for self-development. Find out what your talents and skills are and invest in them. Do something only for yourself. Think of yourself as someone really important and give yourself everything you deserve. Take the time to become the best version of yourself. The better you feel with yourself, the more you will be able to give others.
Believe it or not, the word “worry” carries a huge load of negative energy. It’s worth trying and worrying less. Most of the things we worry about don’t even happen. When we take responsibility for our well-being, we decide to live „here and now” and give up excessive thinking in favor of action, worries disappear. Tell yourself that you can always handle everything and decide that from now on you will end the anguish that your imagination gives you.
Remember: nothing has meaning except the meaning we give it
While we cling to certain events, people and things, everything changes around us. Something that mattered yesterday, in a day, month or year will cease to be that important. Giving up your expectations is liberating. It’s worth to relax and give control – let life go on in its rhythm. It’s that simple.
Learn to appreciate the little things. If you’re healthy, you’ve got a job, a roof over your head and a loving person close to you, you’re lucky. It’s hard to see what we have without gratitude. We still want more and more. Practicing gratitude requires some effort, but it comes naturally over time, giving us a lot in return. Try and with time your personal „list of gratitude” will get longer and you will become happier.
Get out of your comfort zone and see what happens
Habits indeed rule our lives. There is nothing wrong with it – we still need them but how not to fall into the trap of routine? You have to practice getting out of your comfort zone. What is comfortable and predictable is necessary to have a sense of security. However, if we want to strengthen our character and continue to develop, we should face new challenges. We can leave the comfort zone in small steps, the changes don’t have to be serious. It’s important to be open to new experiences, change your perspective and broaden your horizons. It’s worth doing the things we are afraid of and feel the strength they give us. Remember these words:
Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.